Why I Wrote Love Yourself First
I wrote Love Yourself First because the way people search for love pains me. I watch people look for it everywhere. In a partner. In approval. In the next thing. And so often the search ends in the same place it started, because the one relationship that shapes all the others was never looked at. When I trace it back, I see a lack of accountability within ourselves. It all circles back to self love. Start With the First Sentence When you make a mistake, what is the first sentence your mind says to you? Not the one you would say out loud. The one that comes before you can stop it. Write it down, word for word. Don't fix it. Just see it. You cannot change what you have not first seen clearly. The Critic There is a voice in most of us that calls itself high standards. "I always mess this up." "What is wrong with me?" I call it the Critic. It exaggerates, it generalizes, and it attacks who you are instead of what you did. Harshness is not discipline. It is just hars...